How many time must i tell you - BE YOURSELF

Someone asked me can "A MAN and WOMAN can be just friends". This topic have been round and round and seems like no one can give the perfect answer.

For singles, we DO NOT have the worries of gossiped by others, the most people will mistaken that we are couples - but SO WHAT .

For married man/woman, people will start to gossip if we are close with the opposite sex. They will start to speculate that something fishy must be going on and they will start to comment that we shouldn’t have CLOSE friend of the opposite since we are MARRIED. I don’t agree with that, although we are Married that doesn’t mean we can’t have friends.

For one who is single but having a married close friend, problem again.. those childish people will say " either party MUST have an Ulterior motive".. sigh.. it’s never ending.. why think so much? It’s fate that brought us together, so why bother what others said and lost a friend. Why bother how others look at us. Most importantly we know that there is nothing else beside friendship and we are comfortable with one another. Perhap it’s gonna be a bit uneasy initially, but as long as people got to know us long enough and we are able to STAND firm, the rumour will soon fade away.

I am a close friend with many of my husband’s friends and they are comfortable with me and my husband is alright for me to go out with my guy friends - it’s all TRUST. Somehow or rather I always believe that it is good to have male friends and I have MANY, more than woman.

Can a married man and a married woman be just friends? Yes, if their ultimate goal is to remain just friends and they work hard to keep it that way . " just Friends - As in "only" friends. No sex, no lust, no passion, no secret dreams and desires: just friends.

So.. my dear friend, why you worried what others feel about us.. remember we are more than Friends, ( hahaha.. we are good friends) we still have to face one another for many years.. so don’t worry what others look at us and just be comfortable, why bother to hide our friendship when others are around.. BE YOURSELF!