Men's Tears

The first time in my life seeing a man in tears was 18 years ago when my mum passed away. It was the day of the funeral and for 16 years as daughter of my parent, it's the first time i've seen my dad cried. That's the tears of a man who lost his wife of more than 30years.
 
The second time when i seen a man cried was the fateful 26/12/1999.. I hate to elaborate more, but that was the tears of a HEARTBROKEN father.
 
The third time was in 26/12/2004. Tears of a father and brother who lost their daughter/sister to the Tsunami.
 
Then in May, I saw a 80years old uncle cried in front of me becos he lost his wife of 50years.. That's sad and I really don't know how to console him and what to say in order to make him feel better. It's Love and I know one of this day it will happen to us, losing our partner.
 
As we can see, most cried because they lost their loved ones, through accident, sickness and disaster, but the man who was in tears just a minute ago cried because he have to send his son to the jail, one and only son. It's not easy because no parent will ever like to see their children suffer, they always want to give us the best and no matter what we do, they will always forgive us and support us. He has to because being a father, he have done his part, by taking good care and provide for him, but he is always giving him problem. This time, it's becos of all the traffic fines and offence he have committed or ignored many months ago. Enough is enough, he have come up with 15k to bail him out, but the penalty was so high and the only time his son willing bear the full responsibilities. The thought of seeing himself in the jail really broke his heart and he no longer able to control his tears.
 
We all learn from mistakes and we all grown through mistakes and educations, I really hope this one month will be an experience for him as well as a lesson for him to grow. He is an adult, old enough to be a father, but he never grow any mature. As a father, this is a time for him to let go, though painful, but it's time to do so. I hope when he return home, he will treasure his family and be more sensible.

God, Please blessed that family

I really don't understand why some people choose to give birth and yet neglect their own children. If you can't afford to give them the best, but at least you tried, it's understandable. But if you can and yet refused to shower them with love and care, then just have fun and don't give birth!
My husband's family were all weirdoes, I don't like his family, I'm glad he is different. His 2^nd brother, had 2 lovely children and a wife who really can tolerate all his nonsense. He is always drunk and will start to abuse them, verbally and physically. Quote some examples I've heard for the past few years~

1. He will get drunk and dirty, he will throw up like nobody biz around the house. He will start threatening to chop up everyone.
2. He whip his son up like whipping an animal in the circus, even the teacher threatened to report to the police.
3. He verbally abused his parent-in-law who helps him taking care of the house and children, and for God sake, they were nice old folks who gave him lots of help, yet this ungrateful brat treated them so badly.
4. He is willing to spend money on drinking and gambling, he refused to pay for the house and children, no pocket money for them, unless they really beg him! He don't pay for the household allowance and all the bills for the house.
5. Now that his wife have got a job at the airport, earning peanuts, he simply wash his hand and totally stop supporting the wife and children.
6. When nice neighbor saw his boy dashing across the road, being nice they tell him to take note, he said " let the car run over him, let him die" ! What a F**K!

I told my husband, this man is useless, he don't care for his own family and he gets upset and angry when others trying to care for his wife and children. Don't you think it's a wonderful thing if we have people who love our children and finds them adorable. Don't you think it's a wonderful thing to have people to help you out when you needs help. Yet this idiot, he is inferior I guess, when we are nice to his family, he will start torturing them.
Can you imagine, a boy who usually score 70/80 in all subject, start bring * eggs * home? He simply gave himself up! Poor boy, all he gets at home is cane cane cane and all the abusive language from the father. He is suppose to be leaving under tender care, yet…. I don't think he can't study, but he just felt neglected, there is nobody to coach and guide him. This can't go on.. It's really upsetting to see them in this stage. Sometime I wonder why in the first place they choose to have children, they shouldn't have and why aren't she running away.. she could have just run away from his clutch! How long is she going to tolerate all these.. 10years? 20years? 30years? Why must she suffer all these.
I really pitied them.. imagine I can't stand the sight of that idiot, not even for 5minutes, but they have to face him everyday! God, Why is all these happening to them? I pray that all these will end soon, I pray that he will wake up and realized his mistakes, realized all the stress he have given to the whole family before it is too late. I can't imagine a little boy telling me he will chop his father into pieces when he grow up, like what his dad always said. God, please blessed that family.

Hard to find a Honest Hubby

Now then i know my hubby is so HONEST! He is always so proud that he can give other woman a lift home. Yes! He never failed to inform me that he is sending someone home or giving some other woman a lift. I don't see anything wrong with giving others a lift, and there is NO NEED to hide or keep it from your spouse, hmm.. unless there's some hanky panky going on.
 
But I just don't understand why some men choose to lie to their spouse. What's wrong with giving a colleague a ride home? Why must you start lying before she even ask you where are you. If you need to do a detour, why are you telling her you are going straight to pick her up. Don't offer other's a ride if you are rushing to somewhere, the transport system in S'pore is good, No worries. And ya, it's so awkward lor... sitting next to someone listening to his lies.. It's a SIN leh... And i hate that kind of "impatient tone" if i'm your wife.   
 
Maybe your wife appeared PETTY to you, so in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, you opt to lie, but that shows how much your wife loves you. Or Maybe, it's you..maybe you are the one who wasn't standing too firm.. maybe you have a bad record and probably serving a probation order, hence you decided to lied. But learn from my hubby, he might not have a magnanimous wife, but becos of his honesty, the wife no longer being petty.. The morale of the story- T. R. U. S. T
 
**Note- Shan Shan, it's just a lift, it's just that he didn't tell you the truth & got caught by you, 10 years clean record of his, can make up for that one little lie" he will learn his lesson, cos uncle Tong will speak to him this evening.

What a day!

Last evening was not too smooth for me. First, we thought of getting something @ Ikea, My hubby VERY sure they sold there. OK, went over, can't find what we want! So dinner shall be next, nothing interesting at Ikea, so we thought we shall get out of the place, while driving, we sudden crave for the Fish soup @ Compass point. OK, shall head there! All the way to Compass point, realized the food court is close lah ! That means we have to think AGAIN what's for dinner! Then i remember there's a 4D kiosk inside metro, so i told my hubby i shall buy some hopes there. Went in and WALAUEH it's CLOSED lah, CLOSED FOR GOOD! Sia Lah... Then finally we decided to go to MAC for our dinner, i order a Mac spicy, ok, at least it din disappoint me.. My hubby got a fillet o fish...Hmmm... He said not as good as before.. the Nuggets too were disappointment too... After dinner, we headed home.
 
This morning, in order not to get late, I went out like 6.15am to catch an early bus. At least i can still catch my sleep from Punggol to Airport~~I thought. BUT... Arggggg.. there is this boy behind me, he is about 15 i guess, he is with his earpiece, but the volume was SO bloody high, i can even hear the music. I couldn't believe myself lah.. he is listening to a HOKKIEN SONG from the 80s! Halo.. Impossible, not his era lah! And worst... he is SINGING lah... not that he can sing so fantastic.. he reminds me of the clips i saw " that KEN Lee song"! Walau.. And we can't stop him! The worst is not that.. He actually repeatedly singing/babbling that song from PUNGGOL all the way to CPF Building @ Tampines! !#$&** There goes my sleep! The morale of the story~~ NEVER LEAVE HOME WITHOUT CHARGING YOUR HP AND NEVER FORGET YOUR EARPIECE!

Never Judge A Book By Its Cover

Sometimes we tends to be prejudiced. The moment somebody mistreat us, it's The end of HIM. We will never have good impression of him, no matter how hard he tries. We tends to be blinded by hatred, prejudice and anger.
Sometimes we are fooled by hypocrites who shower us with sweet words and faked attention. We thought they were friends, best friends.. We thought people who goes lunch with us, shopping with us were True Friends, real friends, but we may be wrong..
It doesn't matters if we were friends or foes, at least Respect each individual.. I've heard from 2 person in 2 occasion.. One said " Who cares, I'm not that Noble! ( Mind you, she's a lady with sweet look) The other said " Respect one another's race and religion" ( He is one who was labeled~~Toad / Bugger). This explain why people said~~NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER.
 
"People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives. Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
People who really want help may attack you if you help them. Help them anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway."
 
Mother Teresa